Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Incorporating Wedding Etiquette into Your Tipping

By Belle B. Carrclum

In most restaurants, a large party will have gratuity added to the bill. But, that does not mean that this is the right amount to tip (it may be too high or too low) and it does not mean that you have to pay for it at that level If you pay gratuity in the final bill of your service provided for your wedding, should you give a tip on top of this to the service provider?

However, which services rate a tip and how much is reasonable? It is also important to know when to tip. There are a number of different opportunities when you will have to give a tip. Some of these times are listed here and deserve attention.

Some vendors already include a tip in the final bill such as the caterer, the banquet managers, waiters, bartenders, and bridal consultants. Generally, an appropriate tip is about 15%, but should only be provided if the service has been very excellent since you are already tipping them in the bill.

Should you tip the limousine Driver? The answer is, yes, but check the original contract to see if the tip is already included there. If it is included then, no. If it is not included, then a 15% gratuity is appropriate.

Should you tip Photographers, florists and musicians? If the tip is not provided in the contract, then a tip in the amount of 15% to 20% is appreciated. Of course, if the service exceeds expectations then more is appropriate.

Should the Rabbi, Priest, or Minister receive a Gratuity? This Gratuity should never be neglected since it is not usually provided somewhere else. The groom is responsible for this tip and should give the card and envelope to the best man to give to the Wedding Officiante BEFORE the ceremony as the minister often has to leave after the ceremony. This amount should not be less than $250. While it is a donation, it should always be provided. Also consider the distance the minister had to drive. When you consider that the wedding officiant is the one vendor that must be present for the wedding to actually take place and he or she must have the credentials, training, and skills to make your ceremony beautiful or not, then you realize what a bargain this truly is in the overall wedding budget.

Civil Service. Since there is no cost set here, it is appropriate to provide a tip of $50 to $100 for the civil servant that is providing the service. Often, there is a suggested donation posted in these offices.

Gratuities must not be forgotten. The groom is responsible for the tipping. If he cannot remember or is too busy, then he should ask the Best Man to do this. Showing appreciation through tipping is in keeping with proper wedding etiquette. - 15790

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